By Laura Johnstone | The Good, The Bad, and Your Parenting Journey
Have you ever sat down for “just ten minutes” to do something you love—and then looked up and realised hours had disappeared? If you’re autistic, have ADHD (or both like me), you’ll know that feeling all too well. That magical moment when your special interest kicks in is like being transported. It’s energising, all-consuming, and honestly—one of the best feelings I know.
But it’s not just about getting stuck in; it’s about being found in something.
For me? That special interest is writing.
I Never Thought I’d Say This
I didn’t learn to read until I was 13. I struggled at school, especially with traditional expectations. English was the subject that filled me with dread. So, if you’d told me back then that one day I’d be writing books—not just one, but a whole collection—I wouldn’t have believed you.
But something changed after my daughter Amelia was born prematurely. Writing became a way to cope. It gave me a purpose, a voice, and most importantly, a way to connect with others going through similar challenges. I started writing to help other families understand the NICU, how diabetes affects people (I found this interest when studying podiatry because of the way it affects the feet), what it means to live with chronic illness, and the realities of being neurodivergent in a world that isn’t always built for us.
And once I began, I couldn’t stop. I’d write for hours without noticing the time. And while that can lead to forgetting lunch or accidentally skipping bedtime (oops), it also brings such a strong sense of joy, calm and clarity.
Hyperfocus or Heart Work?
Sometimes it feels like my brain is running on rocket fuel. Once I’m in the zone, I can’t shift gears easily. This is one of the big parts of being both autistic and ADHD—your mind latches onto something that feels just right, and time warps around you. Some might call it hyperfocus, but to me, it feels like heart work.
Whether I’m scribbling away about how to support families with disabled children, designing a campaign like Pumping for Preemies, or writing picture books to help young siblings understand hospital life, I’m in my element. These aren’t just hobbies—they’re my way of bringing light into really hard places.
But It’s Not Just About Writing
My other great love? Spending time with my people.
When I’m with my husband, daughter, or friends who get me—I get that same sense of timelessness. You know those moments when you’re laughing over a glass of wine (or a cuppa, if you’re like me), or watching your child discover something new? Hours can go by and you don’t even notice. That’s magic too.
The truth is, when you’re neurodivergent, your joy might look a little different to others. It might be intense, immersive, or totally “too much” for someone else. But that joy is real, and it’s sacred.
Finding Balance (Or Trying To)
Of course, there are times when hyperfocus can be tricky. I’ve burnt the toast, left laundry in the machine too long, or realised I haven’t messaged someone back for three days because I was deep in writing land.
But that’s also where support, boundaries, and a bit of grace come in. Having people in your life who understand how your brain works makes a huge difference. And having Amelia helps keep me grounded—even when I’m up in the clouds crafting stories or blog posts like this one.
If You’re Like Me…
If you’ve got a brain that dives deep, whether it’s into writing, art, trains, spreadsheets, Star Wars, or slime-making—please know there’s no shame in that. Your passion has a place. Your interest matters. And sometimes, what you love most can also be what helps others the most, too.
So, whether you’re someone who can get lost in your work, your family time, your creative project, or your friendships—cherish those moments. Because even when hours disappear, something meaningful is usually being created.
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References & Resources:
National Autistic Society. (2023). Understanding special interests ADHD UK. (2023). What is Hyperfocus? Bliss Charity. (2024). Supporting parents in the NICU
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