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Autism, Rejection Sensitivity, and How the “Let Them” (and “Let Me”) Theory by Mel Robbins Has Helped Me

Living with autism and ADHD means that rejection sensitivity is something I experience daily. It’s not just about feeling sad when things don’t go my way—it’s a deep, almost physical reaction to perceived rejection or criticism, even when no harm was intended. It can feel like the world is crashing down over something as small as a delayed text response, a neutral expression on someone’s face, or a simple “no” to a request.

For many neurodivergent people, rejection sensitivity (often linked to Rejection Sensitivity Dysphoria, or RSD) isn’t just an emotional reaction—it’s an overwhelming sense of being unwanted, unworthy, or “too much.” It’s the fear of being abandoned, of not fitting in, or of always saying or doing the wrong thing. It’s reliving every negative experience, every friendship that ended, every time someone walked away. And for years, I let these feelings control me.

But then I came across something that changed my perspective—the “Let Them” (and “Let Me”) theory by Mel Robbins. And it’s helped me more than I could have imagined.

What Is the “Let Them” (and “Let Me”) Theory?

Mel Robbins’ “Let Them” theory is based on a simple but powerful idea:

• If people want to leave, let them.

• If they don’t invite you, let them.

• If they don’t text back, let them.

• If they don’t see your value, let them.

At first, this sounded impossible to me. How could I just let people go when my brain was wired to desperately seek connection, approval, and reassurance? How could I let someone ignore me when my mind was already screaming that I wasn’t good enough? But as I started to sit with the idea, I realised something—it wasn’t about giving up. It was about letting go of control over things I couldn’t change.

But then there’s the other side of the equation—the part that often gets overlooked but is just as important:

• If I want to set boundaries, let me.

• If I need time to process, let me.

• If I want to be authentically myself, let me.

• If I need to walk away from something that hurts me, let me.

It’s not just about letting others be who they are—it’s about giving myself permission to be who I am too.

How “Let Them” (and “Let Me”) Has Helped My Rejection Sensitivity

1. It Stopped Me from Chasing People Who Didn’t Choose Me

For a long time, I would replay conversations over and over in my head, wondering if I’d said something wrong. If someone distanced themselves, I would bend over backwards trying to make things right—even if I hadn’t done anything wrong. The “Let Them” theory gave me permission to stop. If they don’t want to stay, let them. Instead of obsessing over their silence, I focus on the people who actually show up for me.

2. It Helped Me Accept That Not Everyone Will Understand Me

Being autistic means I sometimes communicate differently, miss social cues, or struggle with small talk. I’ve spent so much time masking, trying to be what others wanted, just to be accepted. But the “Let Them” theory helped me realise: If someone doesn’t understand me, that’s okay. Let them. My worth isn’t defined by how well I fit in. The right people will appreciate me for who I am.

3. It Gave Me Emotional Freedom

RSD used to feel like a prison—I was constantly trying to avoid rejection, making myself smaller, apologising when I didn’t need to. But when I started applying “Let Them”, I began to feel lighter. It reminded me that I don’t have to force relationships, beg for validation, or prove my worth. If someone chooses to misunderstand me, let them. If someone thinks I’m too much, let them. It doesn’t change my value.

And on the flip side, I’ve learned to say: If I want to stop proving myself, let me.

4. It Stopped Me from Over-Apologising

One of the hardest parts of rejection sensitivity is feeling like everything is your fault. I used to apologise constantly, even when I hadn’t done anything wrong. But “Let Them” shifted my mindset: If someone is upset but won’t communicate? Let them. If they hold onto resentment instead of having a conversation? Let them.

At the same time, I remind myself: If I don’t want to apologise for things that aren’t my fault, let me.

5. It Helped Me Set Boundaries Without Guilt

Before, I would let people overstep my boundaries because I was too afraid to say no. I’d put their comfort above my own because I didn’t want to be seen as difficult. But the “Let Them” theory reminded me: If someone gets upset because I’m setting a boundary, let them. Their reaction is not my responsibility.

And equally important: If I need to say no without feeling guilty, let me.

My Experience With RSD in University

I remember when I was at university, any negative comment about a piece of work—even if it was used in the “sandwich method” (where feedback starts with a positive, then a critique, then another positive)—would destroy me. It didn’t matter if the lecturer told me I’d done something well; I would only hear the negative part. I would obsess over it, picking apart my work, convinced I had completely failed.

That’s why failure is a banned word in my house.

Back then, I didn’t have the words for what I was experiencing, but now I know—it was Rejection Sensitivity Dysphoria (RSD). Once I learned about autism and ADHD, everything made sense. I wasn’t just “overly sensitive” or “too emotional”; my brain was wired to react this way. Recognising RSD was a breakthrough because it meant I could start to change how I responded to these feelings instead of letting them control me.

The word “failure” may be banned in my house, but it was banned in my heart long before that. Now, I focus on the fact that every mistake is just a stepping stone, not a permanent label.

“Let Them” and “Let Me” Don’t Mean You Don’t Care

This isn’t about being cold or dismissive. It’s not about shutting people out or refusing to work through challenges. It’s about recognising that you can’t control others, only yourself. It’s about self-respect, emotional freedom, and focusing your energy on the people and things that truly matter.

And as someone who has spent years battling rejection sensitivity, that’s a lesson I needed to hear.

My Message to You

If you struggle with rejection sensitivity, I want you to know—you are not alone. Your feelings are valid. But you don’t have to live in a constant state of fear, overthinking, or emotional exhaustion. You are worthy of love and connection just as you are. And if some people don’t see that?

Let them.

And if you need to take up space, ask for what you need, or live unapologetically as yourself?

Let you.

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Losing Myself in the Joy of Parenting

When asked what activities I could lose myself in, my answer is simple: anything that involves Amelia.

Right now, that means reading Noisy Farm and Hickory Dickory Dock—her favourite lift-the-flap books. It means playing with her toys, dolls, and making the most of soft play adventures. It means watching her eyes light up as she learns something new, her little hands eagerly flipping pages, and her excitement when she spots an animal she recognises.

I never get tired of these moments. Seeing her grow and learn over the past two years has been one of the greatest joys of my life. And the best part? This is only the beginning.

Right now, it’s books, dolls, and playtime. But as she gets older, those activities will change. One day, she might swap soft play for dance classes, puzzles for board games, and bedtime stories for books of her own choosing. And I can’t wait to be right there with her, sharing in her joy, whatever form it takes.

Losing myself in these moments with Amelia isn’t just an activity—it’s a privilege. And I’m so excited to see what the next 40 years will bring.

What activities make you lose yourself in the moment? Let me know in the comments!

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Why Aren’t We Taking Period Pain Seriously? My Journey from Pregnancy to Realising the Truth

I remember the moment I found out I was pregnant. Among the whirlwind of emotions—excitement, fear, anticipation—one unexpected thought stood out:

“Oh my goodness, I get 18 months without my periods!”

For years, I had suffered through agonising cycles, but like so many others, I had been told that it was just part of being a woman. I had internalised the idea that period pain was normal, that I should just get on with it. So, the idea of nearly two years of freedom from that misery felt like an unexpected bonus.

Except it wasn’t.

The reality? I only got 10 months. Amelia arrived early at seven months, and my period made its grand return just three months later. Pissed off was not the word. Seriously, how unfair is that? I thought I was getting a well-earned break, and instead, my body went, “Surprise! You’re not off the hook.”

And what’s worse? Since Amelia was born, my hormones still haven’t gone back to normal. I truly believe that, as an older mum, I’m actually going through perimenopause—which means my periods are now heavier, more painful, and even more unpredictable than before. It’s like my body just went, “Oh, you thought pregnancy and birth were hard? Here’s the next level of chaos!”

I knew periods were rough, but I didn’t expect them to get worse. And now, as I lie here, curled up in bed in excruciating pain, barely able to move and reluctant to stray too far from the bathroom, I can’t help but ask:

Why aren’t we taking period pain seriously?

The Reality of Period Pain

Research has shown that period pain can be as painful as a heart attack—yet for generations, women have been dismissed, gaslit, and told that it’s just part of life. We hear phrases like:

• “It’s just bad cramps.”

• “You’ll grow out of it.”

• “Just take some painkillers.”

• “You’re exaggerating—it can’t be that bad.”

But for so many of us, period pain is not just a mild inconvenience. It can be debilitating, affecting work, education, mental health, and overall quality of life. Some women end up in A&E, unable to cope with the level of pain they are experiencing—yet many are still not taken seriously.

So why is this still happening?

When Period Pain Isn’t ‘Normal’

While some level of discomfort during menstruation is common, severe period pain can often be a sign of an underlying medical condition. Yet, many of these conditions remain underdiagnosed, with women waiting years—sometimes decades—for a proper diagnosis.

Here are some of the key conditions linked to severe period pain:

1. Endometriosis

One of the most painful and underdiagnosed conditions, endometriosis occurs when tissue similar to the lining of the uterus grows outside the womb, causing severe pain, inflammation, and even organ damage. The average time to diagnosis? 8 years.

Symptoms include:

✔ Intense pelvic pain that can last beyond the period

✔ Heavy or irregular bleeding

✔ Pain during or after sex

✔ Fertility struggles

✔ Digestive issues and bloating (sometimes called “endo belly”)

2. Polycystic Ovarian Syndrome (PCOS)

PCOS is a hormonal disorder that can cause irregular or painful periods, often with heavy bleeding or long cycles. It is also linked to:

✔ Hormonal imbalances (high androgens leading to acne or excess hair growth)

✔ Weight gain and insulin resistance

✔ Cysts on the ovaries

✔ Increased risk of infertility and metabolic conditions

3. Adenomyosis

Adenomyosis occurs when the inner lining of the uterus grows into the muscle of the uterus, causing intense pain and heavy bleeding. It is sometimes mistaken for fibroids and can lead to:

✔ Severe cramps

✔ Heavy or prolonged periods

✔ A swollen or tender uterus

✔ Pain during sex

4. Fibroids

Fibroids are non-cancerous growths in the uterus that can cause heavy bleeding, intense cramps, and pressure on surrounding organs. Symptoms can include:

✔ Heavy periods with clotting

✔ Pelvic pressure or bloating

✔ Pain during intercourse

✔ Urinary issues

5. Perimenopause

Perimenopause is the transition phase before menopause, where hormone levels fluctuate wildly. This can result in:

✔ Heavier, longer, and more painful periods

✔ Unpredictable cycles (some months skipping, other months doubling up)

✔ Worsening PMS and mood swings

✔ Hot flashes and night sweats

✔ Increased fatigue and brain fog

And yet, perimenopause is rarely discussed, leaving many women confused, frustrated, and struggling to get medical support.

Why Aren’t We Talking About This?

For so long, conversations about menstrual health have been swept under the rug. From school classrooms to doctors’ offices, there has been a systemic failure to take women’s pain seriously.

Here’s what needs to change:

✅ Education – More awareness about what ‘normal’ period pain looks like versus symptoms of a medical condition.

✅ Better medical training – Too many GPs and healthcare providers still dismiss menstrual pain.

✅ Faster diagnoses – No one should have to wait nearly a decade for a condition like endometriosis to be recognised.

✅ More research – Despite affecting millions of people, menstrual conditions are underfunded in medical research.

What Can You Do If You’re Suffering from Severe Period Pain?

If your periods are impacting your daily life, don’t ignore it. Here’s how you can advocate for yourself:

✔ Track your symptoms – Keep a diary of your pain levels, cycle length, and additional symptoms to discuss with a doctor.

✔ Push for tests – Request ultrasounds, blood tests, and referrals to a gynaecologist if needed.

✔ Get a second opinion – If a doctor dismisses your pain, don’t be afraid to seek another medical professional.

✔ Find support – Connect with advocacy groups and online communities to share experiences and find advice.

Final Thoughts

I wish I had known years ago that my pain wasn’t just something I had to endure. I wish someone had told me that periods shouldn’t leave me unable to function, stuck in bed, or doubled over in pain.

And now, as I navigate the joys of perimenopause (because clearly, my body thought I needed another hormonal adventure), I’m realising just how ignored and unprepared we are when it comes to women’s health.

If we can accept that a heart attack is a medical emergency, why are we still treating period pain like it’s no big deal?

It’s time we start listening, learning, and demanding change.

If you’ve struggled with period pain, I’d love to hear your experience—let’s keep this conversation going. Comment below and share your thoughts!

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Improving Bereavement Care for Parents: Leanne’s Story and the Need for Change

Losing a baby is an unimaginable pain—one that leaves parents navigating grief, heartbreak, and often, a lack of support. For my friend Leanne, this became a devastating reality when she lost her daughter, Enya, due to maternal sepsis. Not only did she have to say goodbye to her precious baby, but she also had to undergo a hysterectomy, forever changing the course of her life.

Leanne’s experience is not unique. Too many parents find themselves in the depths of loss, without adequate bereavement care or support from the systems that should be there to guide them through their grief. That’s why she has become an advocate—fighting for better awareness of baby loss, maternal sepsis, and the urgent need for improved care for bereaved parents.

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Why Bereavement Care Needs to Improve

For families who have lost a baby, compassionate and structured bereavement care can make a world of difference. It’s about more than just acknowledging the loss—it’s about ensuring parents have the emotional, medical, and practical support they need in the weeks, months, and years that follow.

Many bereaved parents report feeling abandoned by healthcare systems after their loss, left to navigate their grief alone. Some receive inconsistent care, while others find that there is no standardised support in place at all. The emotional trauma of losing a baby is only compounded when families feel as though they are being forgotten.

This is why organisations like Sands, the leading stillbirth and neonatal death charity in the UK, are working tirelessly to change this. They are currently gathering information from parents in Sheffield and South Yorkshire to better understand bereavement care experiences—and they need your help.

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Have You Experienced Bereavement Care in South Yorkshire? Share Your Story

Sands is asking bereaved parents to share their experiences through a confidential survey to identify gaps in care and make tangible improvements. If you or someone you know has gone through baby loss in this region, please take a moment to fill out the survey and have your voice heard.

🔗 Click here to share your experience

Your input could help shape the future of bereavement care, ensuring that no parent feels alone in their grief.

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The Reality of Maternal Sepsis and Baby Loss

Leanne’s story is also a stark reminder of the dangers of maternal sepsis—a life-threatening condition that can escalate rapidly if not diagnosed and treated in time. Many parents are unaware of the risks, and awareness campaigns remain crucial in ensuring that both mothers and babies receive the care they need.

Sepsis occurs when the body’s response to infection spirals out of control, leading to organ failure and, in severe cases, death. In pregnancy, childbirth, or postpartum, sepsis can develop from infections such as urinary tract infections (UTIs), Group B Strep, mastitis, or infections following a C-section, miscarriage, or stillbirth.

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Recognising the Signs of Sepsis

Sepsis can affect anyone, but pregnant women, newborns, and children are particularly vulnerable. Early recognition and treatment are critical to prevent serious complications or death.

Signs of Sepsis in Pregnancy & Postpartum

Pregnant women and new mothers should be aware of these symptoms:
• High or very low temperature
• Shivering or severe chills
• Fast heartbeat
• Fast breathing or breathlessness
• Severe pain or discomfort
• Dizziness or confusion
• Reduced urination
• Smelly vaginal discharge
• Red, swollen, or painful wounds (especially after a C-section or perineal tear)

If you are pregnant or have recently given birth and experience any of these symptoms, seek urgent medical help.

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Signs of Sepsis in Adults
• High or low temperature
• Uncontrollable shivering
• Rapid heartbeat
• Fast breathing or feeling breathless
• Extreme fatigue or weakness
• Confusion or difficulty speaking
• Feeling dizzy or faint
• Cold, clammy, or mottled skin
• Severe pain or discomfort

Sepsis is a medical emergency. If you or someone you know has these symptoms, seek urgent medical help by calling 999.

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Signs of Sepsis in Babies & Children

Children and babies can become seriously ill very quickly with sepsis. Trust your instincts—if something feels wrong, act fast.

Signs of Sepsis in Babies (Under 1 Year)
• Not feeding properly or refusing feeds
• No wet nappies for 12 hours or dry nappies
• Repeated vomiting
• Unusual cry or moaning
• Hard to wake or very sleepy
• Floppy or unresponsive
• Breathing fast or struggling to breathe
• Blue, pale, or mottled skin
• Cold hands and feet
• High or low temperature (feels hot or cold to the touch)

Signs of Sepsis in Children
• High fever, but cold hands and feet
• Fast breathing or struggling to breathe
• Sleepiness, confusion, or difficulty waking up
• Bluish or pale skin, lips, or tongue
• A rash that doesn’t fade when pressed
• Seizures or fits

If your child or baby shows any of these signs, get medical help immediately—call 999 or go to A&E.

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How You Can Help
1. Take or share the Sands survey – If you or someone you know has experienced baby loss in South Yorkshire, encourage them to complete the survey here.
2. Raise awareness – Talk about maternal sepsis and baby loss. Share Leanne’s story and support advocacy efforts to improve bereavement care.
3. Support Sands and bereavement charities – Organisations like Sands rely on donations and volunteers to continue their work in improving care and offering support to grieving parents.

Grief should never be faced alone. By working together, we can push for a world where bereaved parents receive the support, recognition, and care they deserve.

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Special Interests and Autism: The Comfort of Watching Shows on Repeat

When it comes to special interests and autism, there’s something deeply comforting about watching the same TV shows and movies over and over again. It’s not just about entertainment—it’s about familiarity, predictability, and the joy of immersing yourself in something that feels safe and known.

Today’s blog prompt got me thinking: Is there a show or movie that I’ve watched more than five times? For me, there isn’t just one—there are many!

The Childhood Obsession: Annie

As a child, I was completely obsessed with Annie. I watched it so many times that I knew every single word, every single song, every single moment. It wasn’t just a film to me; it was a world I could escape into. I would happily watch it two or three times a day, much to the amusement (and eventual frustration) of my parents.

Then, one day, it was gone.

Back in the days of VHS tapes, my parents accidentally (or at least, that’s what they said at the time) recorded over it. I was devastated. I can still remember the moment I realised Annie was lost forever—at least until DVDs and streaming services came along years later!

Finding Comfort in Repetition

As an adult, my special interest shows have changed, but the comfort of repetition has stayed the same. Shows like Charmed, Friends, and The Big Bang Theory have been my go-to series for years. I’ve lost count of how many times I’ve rewatched them.

Looking back, I now realise why I was drawn to them so intensely. The Big Bang Theory, for example, resonated with me beyond just the geeky references. It reflected so many autistic traits—especially in Sheldon Cooper. His need for structure, his difficulty understanding social nuances, and his hyperfixation on his interests all felt incredibly relatable.

And Friends? Well, that show gave me a sense of belonging. Even if the characters had their own ups and downs, they always had each other. It created this illusion of a tight-knit group where you could be yourself and still be accepted. When I was younger, I struggled to feel like I truly belonged anywhere, and Friends was a comforting reminder that it was possible.

The Science Behind Special Interests

For many autistic people, special interests go beyond hobbies—they’re lifelines. Engaging with them can bring a sense of calm, excitement, and mastery. Research has even shown that special interests help reduce anxiety and provide a sense of stability in a world that often feels unpredictable.

TV shows and movies, in particular, provide a controlled environment. Unlike real-life social interactions, there are no surprises. You know what’s coming, and that predictability is soothing. It’s why so many autistic people rewatch the same things over and over again.

Why It’s Not “Just TV”

To some, watching the same series repeatedly might seem like a waste of time. But for those of us who thrive on special interests, it’s so much more. It’s self-care. It’s regulation. It’s joy.

Even now, when life feels overwhelming, I turn to Friends or Charmed because they feel like home. They bring back the comfort of knowing exactly what’s going to happen, and that’s something my autistic brain craves.

So, if you find yourself rewatching the same show for the tenth time, don’t feel guilty about it. Embrace it. It’s not just about nostalgia—it’s about finding comfort in a world that sometimes feels chaotic.

What shows or movies have you watched more than five times? Let’s talk about our special interests in the comments!

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Are You Superstitious? How Energy, Manifestation, and Quantum Physics Shape Life and Business

Today’s daily blog prompt is all about superstition—are you superstitious? Do you believe in lucky charms, avoiding walking under ladders, or the power of knocking on wood?

I wouldn’t say I’m traditionally superstitious, but I do believe in the power of energy. If you put positivity into the world, you tend to receive positivity in return. On the other hand, if you focus on negativity, it often comes back tenfold. Recently, I’ve been learning more about human design, and I’ve discovered that I’m a Manifesting Generator—a type that thrives on following what feels right and responding to what excites them.

When I Wasn’t Following My Human Design

Looking back, I now realise there was a time when I wasn’t aligned with my human design—when I was teaching about Sepsis.

Although I knew it was important, it really impacted my mental health. I was constantly reliving one of the most painful moments of my life—being 15 minutes away from not surviving. It was necessary work, but it didn’t light me up. Instead, it kept me stuck in a place of trauma and emotional exhaustion.

Now that I’m focused on what truly aligns with me, I’m amazed at the difference I see in myself. Even though Amelia’s birth and our NICU journey were traumatic, helping other parents through similar experiences brings me a deep sense of purpose and fulfilment. Unlike my experience with Sepsis, supporting NICU parents feels right, and I can see the difference I’m making.

One of the most interesting things about our journey is that, despite how rare and unique Amelia’s umbilical cord complications were, I don’t experience PTSD from it. I think part of the reason is that our story is so uncommon, so I don’t encounter triggers in everyday life. Instead, I feel empowered knowing that I can support other parents navigating similar experiences.

Healing from Birth Trauma

That being said, there was a time when talking about birth trauma was difficult. In the early days, I definitely struggled with PTSD, and it affected me deeply. However, therapy was incredibly therapeutic for me. I worked through so many of my emotions, unpacked my experiences, and over time, I was able to move through the trauma rather than being stuck in it.

Now, I can talk about birth trauma from a place of healing, not pain. I know how overwhelming and isolating it can feel, and that’s why I’m so passionate about helping others feel seen, validated, and supported.

Manifestation in Business: The Law of Attraction and Law of Assumption

Finding my true path has also deepened my interest in manifestation, the Law of Attraction, and the Law of Assumption. These principles aren’t just about personal growth—they play a huge role in business and success as well.

Law of Attraction: You Get What You Focus On

The Law of Attraction states that what you focus on expands. In business, this means:

✔ If you focus on growth, you create momentum.

✔ If you focus on limitations, you stay stuck.

✔ If you expect success, you take action that leads to success.

The most successful business owners don’t dwell on what might go wrong. Instead, they stay focused on opportunities, solutions, and possibilities.

Law of Assumption: Acting As If Success Is Inevitable

The Law of Assumption takes it a step further—what you assume to be true, becomes true.

• If you assume clients are eager to work with you, they will be.

• If you assume your business will thrive, you act accordingly.

• If you assume abundance flows to you, you make financial decisions from a place of confidence instead of fear.

This is why mindset matters just as much as strategy in business. It’s not just about what you do—it’s about what you believe is possible.

The Quantum Physics Behind Success

Even quantum physics supports these ideas. The double-slit experiment showed that particles behave differently when observed, suggesting that our thoughts and expectations shape reality.

If our beliefs and focus influence our external world, then it makes sense that:

• Believing in success leads to confident decision-making.

• Expecting growth creates opportunities.

• Assuming abundance attracts wealth.

This is why the most successful people act as if their success is inevitable—because in doing so, they make it a reality.

Are You Superstitious—Or Just Aware of Energy?

While I wouldn’t call myself superstitious in the traditional sense, I now understand that energy, beliefs, and alignment shape our experiences. Therapy helped me heal from my past, and now that I’m following work that truly lights me up, I can see the power of manifestation, mindset, and quantum energy at play.

Your Turn: How Do You Approach Success?

• Do you believe in manifestation in business?

• Have you experienced how your mindset affects your outcomes?

• How do you shift from negative to positive thinking when challenges arise?

Let’s start a conversation—drop a comment below and share your thoughts!

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Pumping for Preemies: Supporting Mums on Their Breastfeeding Journey

Breastfeeding is often described as natural, but that doesn’t mean it comes naturally to every mum. It can be a challenge even in the best circumstances, and when your baby arrives prematurely, the experience can feel overwhelming. The emotions, exhaustion, and the pressure to provide the best start for your baby can make expressing milk a stressful process.

That’s why I’m launching “Pumping for Preemies”—a campaign to support mums navigating this journey, offering resources, encouragement, and practical help. I want every mum to know: you are not alone, and every drop of milk you express is an incredible gift to your baby.

Why Breast Milk Is So Important for Premature Babies

When babies are born prematurely, their digestive and immune systems are still developing. Breast milk provides essential nutrients that help their growth, support brain development, and protect them from infections—something that is especially crucial for preemies who are at higher risk of complications.

Even if your baby is too small to breastfeed directly, expressing your milk can make a huge difference. In many neonatal units, mums’ expressed milk is considered medicine because of how vital it is for a preemie’s development.

But let’s be honest: expressing milk isn’t always easy.

Expressing Milk: The Challenges and How to Overcome Them

For many mums, expressing milk can feel daunting. Whether it’s difficulty getting your supply going, struggling to maintain it, or simply feeling exhausted and overwhelmed, these challenges are very real. Here are some key tips that helped me and many others:

1. Use a Hospital-Grade Pump

Hospital pumps are often much more efficient than standard ones, especially when you’re establishing your supply. Many hospitals have pumps available for use on the ward, and some charities or pharmacies offer rental options for at-home use.

2. Pump Regularly, But Don’t Stress About Output

In the early days, you might only express tiny amounts, and that’s completely normal. Your body is still adjusting, and every drop truly counts. Aim to express every two to three hours, mimicking a newborn’s feeding pattern, but be kind to yourself—stress can impact supply, so do what works for you.

3. Look After Yourself

I found that oats and flapjacks were a lifesaver for me. Oats are known to help boost milk supply, and I needed the sugar to keep my energy levels up. Hydration is just as important—drink plenty of water, tea, or whatever helps you feel your best.

4. Skin-to-Skin Contact

If possible, spend time doing kangaroo care—holding your baby against your skin. Not only does this help with bonding and regulating your baby’s temperature, but it can also stimulate milk production. If your baby isn’t well enough to be held, even looking at photos or videos of them while pumping can help.

5. Seek Support

Expressing milk for a premature baby can be emotionally and physically exhausting. You don’t have to do it alone. Speak to neonatal nurses, lactation consultants, or support groups. There are also online communities where mums share tips, encouragement, and solidarity.

What If Expressing Doesn’t Go to Plan?

One of the biggest messages I want to share through “Pumping for Preemies” is that any amount of breast milk is valuable—but your mental and physical well-being matter too.

If expressing becomes too stressful or your supply doesn’t increase as much as you hoped, please don’t blame yourself. Formula or donor milk can also provide your baby with the nourishment they need. You are doing your best, and that is enough.

Pumping for Preemies: A Campaign to Support Mums

I’m currently working on resources to support mums who are expressing for their premature babies and am reaching out to Neonatal Intensive Care Units (NICUs) across the UK to ensure that parents have access to the information and reassurance they need.

If you’d like to get involved, whether by sharing your experience, offering support, or helping spread awareness, I’d love to hear from you.

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You are not alone. Whether you manage to express for days, weeks, or months, every bit of effort you put into feeding your baby is an act of love. Let’s support each other through this journey.

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75 Days of Blogging: Why I Show Up Every Day

Seventy-five days. That’s how long I’ve been writing and posting a blog every single day.

When I first started this challenge, I wasn’t sure if I could keep up the momentum. Life as a parent—especially as a neurodivergent parent of a toddler who doesn’t sleep—can be chaotic at the best of times. Add in my own challenges with dyslexia and ADHD, and writing daily seemed like an ambitious (or possibly unrealistic) goal.

But here I am, 75 days in, and I’m not stopping anytime soon.

Why I Write Every Day

I didn’t start this challenge just for the sake of consistency. I started because I wanted to create something meaningful—something that would help parents who, like me, have faced the challenges of prematurity, neurodiversity, or the overwhelming mental load of parenthood.

Each post has been a way to connect, to educate, and to remind parents that they are not alone. Whether I’m writing about navigating life in the NICU, advocating for neonatal leave, or sharing the ups and downs of raising an escape-artist toddler, my goal has always been the same: to provide support and reassurance to those who need it.

What I’ve Learned from 75 Days of Blogging

1. Showing Up Matters

There were days when I didn’t feel like writing. Days when exhaustion hit hard, when Amelia refused to nap, or when my brain felt like it was running on empty. But I showed up anyway. And in doing so, I proved to myself that consistency isn’t about waiting for the perfect moment—it’s about making the time, even when it’s difficult.

2. The More You Write, the More You Grow

As someone who didn’t learn to read until I was 13, I never imagined I’d be writing daily blogs, let alone working on multiple books. Writing every day has helped me refine my voice, develop my ideas, and embrace the imperfections that come with being dyslexic. I’ve learned to write without fear—because the message matters more than perfection.

3. Connection is Everything

Through these blogs, I’ve connected with so many parents who have shared their own stories with me. It’s been a reminder that while our experiences may be different, our struggles and emotions are often the same. Parenting—especially when navigating things like prematurity, neurodiversity, or grief—can feel isolating. But when we share our journeys, we realise we are never truly alone.

What’s Next?

I’m not stopping at 75. This challenge has become a part of my routine, and I’m excited to see where it leads. Whether it’s turning some of these posts into resources for parents, expanding my blog series, or using them to support my upcoming books, I know that this daily practice is shaping something bigger than I first imagined.

If you’ve been following along on this journey, thank you. Your support, comments, and shares mean the world to me. If this is your first time here, welcome—I hope you find something that resonates with you.

And if you take anything away from this post, let it be this: whatever challenge you’re facing, you are not alone.

Let’s keep the conversation going!

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Wild Instincts: The Animals That Reflect My Tenacity, Fear, and Resilience as a Parent

Parenting isn’t just about love—it’s about tenacity, instinct, and an unwavering drive to protect and nurture your family. Some days, I feel like I’m moving through life with the fierce determination of a mother bear; other days, I’m navigating fear like a startled deer, and sometimes, I adapt and endure like the Arctic fox. When I think about the journey I’ve been on—raising a neurodivergent child, advocating for neonatal leave, and surviving my own health battles—I realize just how much I have in common with the animal kingdom.

Here are the animals that reflect different parts of me as a parent:

1. The Lioness – Tenacity and Fierce Protection

A lioness doesn’t just protect her cubs—she fights for them. She’s the ultimate multitasker, hunting, leading, and ensuring her pride survives. She will take on anything that threatens her family, standing strong no matter what.

I resonate with that deeply. From the moment I knew Amelia would be born prematurely, I became a fighter. Whether it was advocating for her medical care, pushing for the right support, or standing up for families who need better neonatal leave, I found a tenacity I never knew I had. Like the lioness, I don’t back down when my family needs me.

Being a parent means being strong, even when you feel weak. There were moments in the NICU when I wanted to crumble, but I didn’t—because Amelia needed me. Just like a lioness standing guard over her cubs, I refused to give up.

2. The Deer – Fear and Hyper-Awareness

Deer are graceful, but they are always on edge, scanning their surroundings for danger. They sense threats before they fully appear, ready to react in an instant.

This is exactly how it felt in the early days of Amelia’s life. I was constantly on high alert, waiting for the next phone call, the next beeping monitor, the next challenge. Even now, as a neurodivergent parent raising a neurodivergent child, I live with a level of awareness that never quite switches off.

There’s a fear that comes with parenting—a fear of the unknown, of making mistakes, of not being enough. Like a deer, I sometimes feel that instinctive panic. But instead of letting fear paralyze me, I’ve learned to channel it into something useful—knowledge, preparation, and resilience.

3. The Arctic Fox – Resilience and Adaptation

The Arctic fox survives in one of the harshest environments on Earth. It adapts by changing its fur, storing energy, and making the best of what it has.

Parenting, especially in the face of challenges, requires that same ability to adjust and endure. I’ve had to adapt to new realities—living with my own neurodiversity, supporting my husband through his own, and parenting a child who is wonderfully adventurous but requires a different kind of guidance.

Like the Arctic fox, I change and evolve. I’ve learned new strategies, discovered strengths I didn’t know I had, and found ways to make life work, even when circumstances weren’t ideal. Resilience isn’t just about surviving—it’s about thriving despite the struggles.

4. The Octopus – Intelligence and Problem-Solving

Octopuses are problem solvers, finding clever ways to escape traps, open jars, and navigate complex challenges. They are one of the most intelligent creatures in the ocean, using their environment to their advantage.

Parenting often feels like being an octopus—juggling multiple responsibilities at once, figuring out how to solve problems in ways that aren’t always straightforward. When the traditional way doesn’t work, I find another. If a parenting approach fails, I adapt. If a system isn’t built for neurodivergent families, I work to change it.

Much like an octopus navigating a maze, I’ve learned to outthink obstacles and find my way forward.

5. The Wolf – The Need to Provide and Protect

Wolves aren’t just fierce—they are deeply loyal and family-oriented. They hunt, travel, and survive together. Every member of the pack has a role, and they protect each other fiercely.

As a parent, I feel that responsibility. The need to provide, to protect, to ensure my family is safe and cared for. It’s why I’ve fought for better neonatal leave, why I push through exhaustion, and why I keep going even on the hardest days.

I may not always feel strong, but like the wolf, I know my strength comes from my love for my family.

Conclusion: Parenting is Survival, but Also Love

Parenting is a mix of tenacity, fear, resilience, intelligence, and fierce protection. Some days, I’m the lioness, taking on the world. Other days, I feel like the deer, anxious and overwhelmed. But no matter what, I adapt like the Arctic fox, problem-solve like the octopus, and protect like the wolf.

Every parent has a bit of the wild in them—the instinct to love, protect, and never give up.

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Which animal would you compare yourself to and why?

Dear 100-Year-Old Me,

Wow, what a journey it has been. I can only imagine what life looks like for you now—what wisdom you carry, what memories you hold close. But I know this for certain: every step you have taken, every challenge you have faced, has been filled with love, resilience, and purpose.

I want to remind you of where you began, not just in the world but in your heart. You came into this life early—far earlier than expected—and fought from the very first breath. You carried loss with you, the absence of Nicholas always present, shaping your compassion and understanding of grief in a way that no one else could fully grasp. You grew up navigating the world differently, not always feeling like you fit in, but finding your own path nonetheless. Reading didn’t come easily. Words felt like a mountain to climb. And yet, look at you now—you became a writer, a storyteller, a voice for those who needed one.

You fought through fear and uncertainty when Amelia was born too soon, bringing with it a flood of emotions you had never fully processed from your own birth. You stood in the NICU, watching her fight, and promised her she would never feel alone. And my goodness, has she ever felt alone? Not for a second.

Life with Amelia is an adventure, one filled with laughter, chaos, and wonder. She is a force of nature—determined, fearless, always climbing, always moving. From the moment she could move, she never stopped. She taught you that love is not just in the big moments but in the everyday—holding her little hand, watching her play in the garden, hearing her giggles echo through the house. You have always been her safe place, just as she has been yours.

And Ryan—what a blessing he has been. Steady, kind, patient, the rock you never take for granted. Through the hardest times, he has stood beside you, and together, you have built a life that is full of love. It was never about grand gestures but about showing up, again and again, for each other. You always knew love wasn’t just about romance—it was about the deep, unwavering commitment to walking through life together, hand in hand.

I wonder what Amelia’s life looks like now, at 70 or beyond. I imagine her still full of that same fire, still climbing (though perhaps not as high as when she was a toddler!). Maybe she has a family of her own, maybe she has pursued dreams that you could never have imagined. Whatever path she took, I know you were always her biggest cheerleader, her soft place to land.

And you? You lived a life that mattered. You turned pain into purpose. You helped others feel less alone. You loved fiercely, wholly, without reservation. I hope you still feel that love now, still find joy in the small things, still see the world through the eyes of the mother who marveled at the miracle of her little girl.

So, 100-year-old me, if there’s anything I want you to hold onto, it’s this: you did enough. You were enough. And every single moment, every hardship, every joy, it was all worth it.

With love,

Laura (the you who still has so much ahead)

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